How to Meet Someone to Date at Church

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In theory, meeting someone at church or your local synagogue is a fantastic sounding idea. They’re going to probably have the same ideals as you, maybe the same mindset, and certainly the same goals when it comes to life, love, children, and happiness. But, for some reason, it never works out how we want it to. We know that there are lots of good looking single men and women at church, but we just can’t figure out how to meet them.

In this guide, that is what we’re going to tackle. We’re going to show you the simple ways that you can increase your chances of finding love at church or the synagogue. We’ll also explore a few different avenues if religious love is something that is important to you.

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Join the Singles Ministry

Most churches are going to have some form of a singles ministry. The bigger the church, usually the bigger the singles ministry is and the more people you’ll have that you can meet. What is a church singles ministry? It’s usually a group that meets a few times or once a month to do something fun together. The group is going to be made up of all single men and women who are consciously looking for love.

It is NOT a speed dating service. It is NOT an awkward setting where they force you to interact with people that you may or may not be interested in. Every single church singles ministry that we’ve seen works to create a pressure-free environment where you can just hang out and have fun with other religious singles.

Now, before you roll your eyes and say that the singles ministry “isn’t for you,” let’s take a look at a few reasons why it’s a great move if you’re looking to meet someone to date at church. First, it’s usually not a group for just the “religious elite” or the people that have their lives perfect. Like most churches, it’s a welcoming place that pushes the come as you are agenda. It is not filled with people that only read the Bible and speak only in hymns. There are “normal” and down to Earth people in church singles ministries.

Second, just because there isn’t someone that isn’t God’s fit for you in the singles ministry, does not mean that it can’t help you find love. We can’t tell you how many stories we’ve heard of people who went to a single’s ministry meeting, didn’t meet anyone there, but got set up with someone through someone they met there. “Hey, I think I know a guy (or girl) that would be perfect for you!” There’s a good chance you’re going to hear those words at a singles ministry.

Take the leap this year and give it a shot. The absolute worst thing that happens if you have some fun with some other religious single people, and that’s it! And if for some reason your church’s singles ministry is terrible, you don’t have to go back! And if they don’t have one, why not start one? Talk about a great way to get a date from church.

 

Don’t Speed In and Out of Church Every Sunday

Relationships at church are formed in the moments in between services and not while the pastor is preaching. It’s pretty hard to get a date with someone in the middle of a church service or during the quick greeting period. We see a lot of people that go to church and end up meeting zero people (not even friends) because they come in right at the beginning of service time and as soon as it’s over, it’s a mad dash to the parking lot to get to their car.

Try this. Slow it down a little bit. Mingle with your church some. Grab a cup of coffee if they have that there. Shake a few hands and get to know your congregation. Even if you don’t find the love of your life doing this, you’re going to meet some awesome people, make new friends, and really enhance your church experience. And, you are certainly going to increase your chances of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right.

This is good advice at anything you do, not just church. Block out a little time to mingle before or after an event and get to know some new people. We’re sure you’ll be pretty impressed with the results.

 

Get Involved in Church Events

You cannot meet people and ultimately get dates if you are not putting yourself in situations and environments where you can meet people and ultimately get dates. Yes, we repeated ourselves there on purpose. Get involved at your church! Volunteer! Become a greeter! Join a bible study! Join the men’s or women’s ministry! (You’d be shocked how many people will try and set you up within the men’s and women’s ministry).

Get yourself out there and start getting to know your church. You’ll make some awesome new friends, have a lot of fun, and you will start meeting people to go on dates with. This is the single simplest thing you can do to increase your chances of getting a date from church.

 

Let It Be Known You’re Looking For Love

If you’re noticing a theme through this how to meet someone and get a date from church guide, it is this – people at church are going to WANT to help you find love. Whether it’s a new friend you make or the old lady that sits in front of you or even the pastor, people are going to want to help you find love.

To be honest, we don’t really know why this is, but it just seems that people at church have a knack for wanting to play matchmaker and for actually being pretty good at it. It might be because they know a relationship will make you happy or is an important part of your religious life and health. Whatever the reason, it’s awesome, and it’s something that you need to take advantage of.

But, no one is going to set you up with anyone if they don’t know that you are single. How do people know you’re single? You let them know! All these new friends and new people you’re meeting should be aware of the fact that you’re single. You don’t have to run around the church singing it to everyone, but you should let it be known that you are single.

We have an awesome guide about how to ask your friends to set you up on a date that is a must read if you need some help on how to go about doing this. Let people know you’re single and ready to mingle, and then let them do what they do. You’ll end up with way more dates from church than you know what to do with.

 

Try an Online Religious Dating Site

There is another way that you can meet religious singles without having to change anything about what you’re doing at church already. In fact, we recommend that even if you’re going to take all of our tips from above to get a date from church, you also check out some religious online dating sites. They are filled with thousands and thousands of high-quality, religious singles in your area.

Below, we’ve linked some of the top online religious dating sites or dating sites that cater to helping you find a religious match. The links we’ve provided will also automatically set you up with a free trial, so you can check things out and see if it’s for you!

Christian Mingle Dating Advice

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One of the leading Christian dating sites in the industry is Christian Mingle. You may have seen commercials on TV, somewhere on the web, or maybe you had some friends at church mention it to you. While the site is extremely user-friendly, we did want to give you some tips if you’re thinking about using the site. These tips will ensure that you get the most out of your membership and hopefully find that Christian man or woman that you are looking for.

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Don’t Join if You’re Not Religious

You might think that this tip goes without saying, but we actually get asked quite a bit if it’s worth joining Christian Mingle if you’re not religious. This is probably because Christian Mingle has a reputation for having some higher quality members and people that are a little less flaky and are actually serious about finding love.

While all of this is true, the singles on Christian Mingle are serious about finding Christian love. That means you do need to be religious and you do need to be a Christian if you have any hopes of having success on the site. We understand why it might be tempting to jump on and see what’s there, but you will be disappointed if you aren’t a Christian.

 

It’s Okay If You’re Not a Super Christian

While you do need to be a Christian looking for love if you want to have any real success on Christian Mingle, you don’t have to be someone who goes to church seven days a week. While most of the people on Christian Mingle are Christians, many of them are at vastly different places in their walk with God.

You have some singles who have been in the church their entire life and their faith is what drives every single decision in there life. You also have Christians who are brand new to the faith and are really just dipping their toes into the water of what Christianity is all about. And then, you have a ton of people that fall somewhere in the middle.

You see, there’s a stigma that some people get about a religious dating site. They think it’s all the people that carry a bible around with them 24/7 and speak only in scripture while praying 84 times a day. While some of these people exist on Christian Mingle (and we applaud them for their religious dedication), the vast majority of people on the site don’t fall into that category. The vast majority of the singles on Christian Mingle are “normal” people who deal with the same struggles of everyday life that you do.

 

Use the Christian Mingle Lookbook Feature

If you’ve read our Christian Mingle review, you know that the dating site has quite a few features to help you find that special someone. One of the features that a lot of people often overlook is the Lookbook feature. Located on the top right of the page when you log-in or on the menu on mobile, you’ll find a link to the Lookbook feature.

What is Christian Mingle’s Lookbook? Well, it’s their version of swipe-style dating. Basically, they show you a picture of someone on the site that matches what you’re looking for and some basic information about the person. As opposed to some other sites that do this (cough…Tinder…cough), they actually show you some information about the person and not just a picture.

If you like the person that they show you, you click the heart icon. If you aren’t a fan or they just aren’t a good fit for you, you click the X and they show you a new single. The idea is that if you click you like someone and that person also clicks that they like you or are interested, then it will let you know that you have matched.

This is a really easy way to get to know people on the site. Anyone you match with through the Christian Mingle Lookbook feature, you will already know that there is mutual shared interest so it should make sending that first message a breeze. Instead of sending a message hoping the person is interested, you will already know without a doubt that they are.

Make sure that you don’t put all your eggs in the Lookbook basket, though. What we mean is this. Not every person on the site uses the feature. In fact, a lot miss it which is the reason that we’ve included it in this tips and advice article. Because of that, you might click that you like someone and you may never get the match back that they like you as well. But, this might not be because they aren’t interested. It might just be because they aren’t using the Lookbook feature.

So, if you like someone, send them a message. Take a chance. The worst that can happen is they say no thanks or don’t respond.

 

No Search Function, Use the Discovery Settings

One of the things that might confuse you when you get on Christian Mingle is there is no traditional search function. But, that does not mean that you don’t have control over the matches you see and that it doesn’t mean you can’t actually search. It’s just in a different spot and works slightly differently. Let’s take a look at it.

Your main home screen is actually your search/browse function on Christian Mingle. The way that you change what you see is by changing your global discovery settings. You will see several links to change this all over the place on the homepage. If you want to “search” for something a little big different than what you’re currently looking for, just temporarily adjust your discovery settings and then go to your member homepage where you will see a whole new group of singles. When you get done, you can change it back to what you are most looking for.

 

Take Advantage of the Free Trial

If you’re on the fence about giving Christian Mingle a try, we highly recommend that you take advantage of their free trial. As one of the more robust free trials in the industry, you can create your profile, upload photos, browse through all of your matches, and even respond to messages for free from paid members. Yes, you can actually communicate with members and potentially get dates without ever paying for a membership.

While we do recommend actually joining the site so you can sit in the driver’s seat, the Christian Mingle free trial is a phenomenal way to see if the site is a good fit for you. If you go on and don’t see anyone you like or aren’t interested in, then you don’t have to join. The worst that happens then is that someone awesome who is a paid member sends you a message!

If you’d like to get started now, check out our Christian Mingle Free Trial page where we will show you how to get signed up for free right now.

Christian Dating Questions

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The beginning of any new relationship is always exciting. You get the chance to learn all about someone new and you’re potentially getting to know the person you might spend the rest of your life with. But, are you asking the right questions? If you’re a Christian, you might not be sure if you’re asking the right dating questions of your new potential mate. Are you really getting to know them the best way possible? Is there anything you’re forgetting?

In this guide, we want to give you some great examples of some of the Christian dating questions that you should be asking of a new potential mate. These are questions aimed at helping you to get to know them and helping you decide if they’re the right person for you to continue pursuing a relationship with.

If you’re brand new to Christian dating, we’re excited that you’re here looking to do things the right way as God intended. We do recommend that when you get a second, take a look at our Christian Dating Advice – Getting Started article. Coupled with the information we have for you here, it’s a great resource to make sure you’re getting started dating the right way and putting yourself at the best chance for having God-driven success.

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Questions to Ask Your Date

So, what should you be asking your date or person of interest that you either just started chatting with online or are going on a first date with? Well, here are some good conversation starters that we think are also important.

What denomination are you?

Where do you attend church? Do you attend regularly?

How important is your faith in your life?

When did you become a Christian?

What’s the toughest part of the Christian faith for you?

Have you ever dated people that were non-religious? Recently? How did that work out? (Be careful with this one as past relationships can sometimes be a touchy subject.)

Are you involved in your church outside of just going to service? Do you attend a bible study?

Does your family and your friends support your faith?

What does your vision for the rest of your life and your family look like? Has it always looked that way?

Where do you stand on alcohol, sex, and drugs?

What does purity in a relationship mean to you?

What are your spiritual views on finances, debt, and tithing?

The idea with these questions is to get to know them and where they are in their walk with Christ. Remember, these questions are not supposed to be an inquisition and there are no right or wrong answers. Everyone is at a different point in their walk, and it’s important for the success of your relationship to have a firm grasp on that.

While it can work, it can sometimes be hard for brand new Christians to date seasoned Christians who are much further along in their faith. Issues can arise because the things that singles in those different areas of their walk deal with are going to be different. Again, it’s not impossible, but it is much more challenging which makes figuring out where people stand that much more important.

Additionally, you may want someone who is at the same level of dedication to your Christian faith as you are. If you’re someone that hits up church on the holidays only, you might struggle dating someone who goes to church four or five times a week. The same in reverse, of course. Again, we’re not saying it’s impossible as God works in some awesomely mysterious ways, but we’re just being realistic from what we’ve seen and experienced.

 

Questions to Ask Yourself

During the Christian dating process, you shouldn’t just be asking questions of your potential mate, but you should also be periodically asking yourself questions to make sure you are on the right track and staying grounded. These are questions that you can ask yourself in private and are great things to meditate on. Here is out list of Christian dating questions you should be asking yourself at all stages of a relationship – new or old.

Is this person in line with what God wants for me?

Am I still seeking God first and this relationship second?

Have I sacrificed any of my morals or values for this relationship?

Is this person helping or hurting my spiritual growth?

How am I impacting my partner’s spiritual growth?

Am I happy? Is my partner happy?

Is there anything I could change to make this relationship more fruitful?

The purpose of these Christian dating questions are for you to make sure that you’re staying in a healthy track. It’s easy in relationships to get complacent or convince ourselves to give way on things that are usually important to us. By asking yourself these questions periodically throughout the relationship, you’ll be self-aware of the direction of your relationship and its effect on your walk with God.

 

Questions to Ask God

The last (or arguably the first) person you should be asking question to during any stage of the Christian dating process is God. It’s important to spend time in prayer to make sure that you’re doing everything you can to follow God’s plan for your love life. Here are some of the Christian dating questions that we recommend you ask God to show you the answers to.

Is my relationship in line with the plans you have for me and my life?

Is there anything in my relationship that I can do differently to better your plan for my life?

Is this person the one that you had planned for me?

Is our relationships progressing at the right pace that you want it to?

Is there anything I can do differently to help increase the quality of my spiritual life or spiritual growth?

 

Christian Dating Questions | The Wrap Up

Finding the person God has planned for you can be tough, but when you do find them it is worth every second that you spent looking for them. These Christian dating questions will help to make sure that you are doing everything in your power to help God’s plan for your love life come to fruition. If you’d like some more information on religious dating, make sure you check out our Religious Dating Guides where we have a ton of awesome information to help you in your walk and your journey to find Christian love.

Christian Dating Advice – Getting Started

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Dating is hard enough as it is. Dating as a Christian can sometimes seem to be even harder. You’ve got a smaller pool of people to choose from and a lot of important issues that you may differ on where you stand. Just finding someone that checks off all the deal breaker boxes can be tough, let alone finding someone that you’re also attracted to.

In this guide, we want to walk you through some basics of Christian dating and how you can get started. Ideally, we want you to set yourself up for success and find that special Christian guy or girl that God has planned for you. We’ll start by talking about where you should be looking, the importance of Christian dating issues, God’s role in the whole puzzle, and a warning to keep you on the right path.

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Choose a Reputable Site with Proven Success

Most of you here have probably already exhausted the dating pool at your church or church groups you’re part of. You might come from a small church, or you just might not be having any luck finding anyone at the church or in the church’s single’s ministry (if they even have one). If your Christian morals weren’t important to you, you could go find people the same way everyone else does. But, as a Christian, it’s hard to tell if the people you’re meeting are on the same faith journey as you without making things a little awkward.

So, what do you do instead? Well, technology is the friend of the Christian dater looking for love. Online Christian dating sites give you the ability to find a ton of Christian singles that you would have never known about in your city. Additionally, high quality Christian dating sites do an incredible job of helping you find compatible matches without making things awkward.

If you’re ready to see what else is out there in a safe and controlled Christian environment, we highly recommend you check out these Christian dating sites we’ve recommended. To make things easier, the links below will automatically set you up with a free trial to each site so that you can search through the matches and see if it’s something you’re even going to be interested in.

 

Know Where You Stand on Key Christian Issues

Knowing where to look for quality Christian singles is only part of the battle. Before you even think about getting out there, you need to make sure that you know where you stand on important Christian issues. Why? Well, for a few reasons. First, it’s impossible to find what you’re looking for if you don’t know what that is. If your faith is important to you, then you’re going to want to align yourself with a mate who agrees with you and has the same belief system.

Additionally, online dating sites give you the ability to search based on a lot of different parameters including where people stand on important faith issues. This means that you can quickly see your viable matches without having to ask someone a million questions that you may or may not be comfortable talking about.

Lastly, knowing where you stand on important faith-based issues will protect you from compromising your belief system just to get results. We’re going to cover this in detail at the close of this guide because it’s extremely important and warrants its own dedicated section.

 

Pray About It

The best piece of Christian dating advice that we can give you is to trust God. God asks us to come to him with our concerns and this is certainly something that makes the list of important things. Now, there are a few pieces of advice that we want to include here. First, remember that God does not operate on your timeline. You might want to find love right away, but that might not be what he has in store for you. God answers every prayer, but it’s not always with a yes. Sometimes it’s not right now. But, if you truly believe in the power of God, you know that he hears you and is working to help answer your prayers even if it’s not as quickly as you’d like for him to.

Second, prayer requires an active component out of you. It is not a say, leave it, and forget it type of thing. You should pray and trust God to do his part, but you still need to take an active role in the process. You can’t just pray to God to find you a mate, and then run hide in your closet and hope for them to knock on your door magically. God requires you to take an active role in his plan.

So, what does that mean in regards to Christian dating? Well, it means a few things to us that may apply to you as well. First, it means you need to actively be looking. You can’t hide in the closet and hope for the man or woman of your dreams to come knocking. The best way that we can see to get started is, of course, looking around your church but also taking advantage of Christian dating online.

You can also let people know that you’re single and ready to mingle, but be careful with this one. Sometimes your friends and fellow church members can be great at setting you up, and sometimes they are just awful at it. You can certainly let the word out if you want, but just be aware of what you may be getting yourself into. One perk of online dating is that you control who you talk to, who you meet up with, and who you potentially date and it all happens from the comfort of your own home.

The bottom line takeaway here is that you need to pray to God and let him know your concerns. He will answer your prayers, but be aware that it might not be in the fashion that you are hoping for. Sometimes he may have someone ready for you right away and sometimes you may have to be a little patient. Just have faith that God is in control, make sure you’re taking an active role, and put on your patience pants.

 

Don’t Compromise Your Faith for “Results”

The last thing that we want to talk about before we send you out is something we briefly touched on earlier. Whatever you do, don’t compromise your faith or who you are just to get more dates. This is the single biggest piece of Christian dating advice that we can give you. Know who you are, know what you stand for, know what you want, and know how to walk away from someone when they are not inline with that.

Just because someone is on a Christian dating site does not mean that they are going to instantly be a super Christian or anything like that. Just like at church, everyone is at different points in their walk and everyone has different struggles they’ve conquered and ones they are still battling with.

The best thing you can do is be open with the singles you talk to. When you meet them on a Christian dating site, it’s already implied that faith is going to play some sort of a role in your potential relationship. But, it’s going to be up to you to define what that is going to look like. It shouldn’t feel awkward bringing this stuff up because it’s important to you and the fact that you’re already on a faith-driven type platform. If you started telling the random person at the bar about where you stood on faith-based issues, they might look at you funny. But, with Christian online dating, that’s the open and accepting environment they are trying to create.

Here’s the bottom line. You are going to be tempted by people that are not right for you. Sometimes it harmless things that might just waste some of your time, and other times it might be things that will severely compromise your faith. Be strong in who you are and don’t be afraid to walk away from someone if they aren’t a good fit for you.

 

Take Action Now – Christian Dating

So, we’ve covered some of the basics that you need to know to succeed in Christian dating. The next step is now for you to take action! That special Christian man or Christian woman may be sitting there patiently waiting for you to come around. If you’re ready to get started, the time to take action is now. Here’s a recap of what we covered and the steps you can immediately take now.

  1. Pray. Pray to God about being single and the fact that you want to find the person he’s specially made for you. Ask God to guide your search and help to lead you to take the right steps to find that person.
  2. Figure out where you stand on key Christian issues. For a lot of you, you’re already going to know this. But, make sure that you are firm on what you need to be firm on. That way if you are tempted by someone or something that disagrees with that, you will have no problems walking away from the situation.
  3. Check out the online dating sites we’ve recommended. If you need help getting started with your profile, check out our How to Write the Perfect Dating Profile guide.
  4. Be patient and trust God. You WILL find that special someone. You just have to be willing to let God work on his time and realize that his timeline and yours might not be the same.

Dating Someone Religious When You’re Not

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If you’re here, we know you’ve probably got yourself in a predicament. You’re either already talking to someone who is religious or are interested in someone who is religious, and that’s just not your cup of tea. Why can’t like be easier, right? Dating someone religious when you are not is certainly not an ideal situation, but you probably already know that so we won’t beat a dead horse.

What we’d like to do today is get to the bottom of this issue and see if we can’t give you some helpful advice for your specific situation. We’re going to look at both sides of the argument on whether dating someone religious when you are not is right or wrong and whether it’s worth trying to make it work.

You’ve probably got a lot of questions right now, but luckily you’re in the right spot to get them answered. Let’s get started.

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Will Dating Someone Religious When You Are Not Work?

The number one question you probably want to know is whether or not dating someone religious when you are not will work. Can you actually have a great meaningful relationship or are you doomed continually to have issues and butt heads on different issues? Well, the answer is that it depends. It depends on several different questions that you can ask yourself right now to figure out whether it’s going to work out or not.

How Serious They Are About Their Faith

The first question you have to ask yourself to figure out if dating someone religious when you are not will work or not is how serious they are about their faith. Is their religion just something that is very casual (like they go to church a couple times a year) or are they serious about their faith and are very active in their church? Do they feel very strongly about a lot of the issues that their religion preaches or are they also casual about those things?

If you find that they’re very serious about faith, we hate to be blunt, but it’s probably not going to work. You’re going to constantly butt heads about issues, and both of you are just going to get frustrated. Sure, you both can try to look the other way for a little while, but eventually, the issues are going to keep coming up, and you’re going to get upset.

What happens if things get serious? What happens if you have kids? Are the kids going to be raised religious? What happens when you want to do something that is against their religion? Who wins that argument? We’re going to be blunt. If they are serious about their faith, it’s not going to work, and you need to let them go.

Now, if their faith is something that is casual, then it’s a bit of a toss-up. It could work, but it’s still not going to be ideal. The risk you run is that one day they decide to get more serious about their faith and if you’re not on board with that, it’s going to create issues. Most of the major religions push pretty hard that you should marry someone with the same religious beliefs as you. And frankly, regardless of where you stand religiously, we have to agree that’s some pretty good advice. There are just too many issues that will come up if you’re both not on the same page.

Are They Okay With You Not Being Religious?

The next question you need to look at when deciding if dating someone religious when you are not is going to work is how the other person feels. It can be easy to look at all of these issues from your point of view, but you really need to be fair and look at things from their side. Are they okay with the fact that you’re not religious?

There are two ways to figure this out pretty easily – one you can observe and one that takes action on your part. The observing that we’re talking about is looking to see if they are trying to convert you to their religion. Are they constantly inviting you to their events or wanting to talk to you about your faith? If they are, they’re most likely not okay with the fact that you’re not religious.

It’s a passive aggressive way of dealing with it. They probably like you a lot and are hoping that you come around and “see the light.” The problem is that when that doesn’t happen, they’re going to get frustrated and it’s going to get ugly.

The second (and best) way to figure out if they’re cool with you not being religious is to ask them. Communication is awesome and the key to any successful relationship. Just ask them straight up if they are okay with you not being religious. Make sure, though, that you get a real answer. Don’t let them give you a short answer that you can tell really isn’t from the heart. Get to the bottom of it because it could save you a lot of time and heartache.

Will They ALWAYS Be Okay With You Not Being Religious?

Here’s the real issue. They might be okay with you not being religious now, or they at least might say that they are. But, are they always going to feel that way? What happens when they get more serious about their faith? What happens when it’s time to get married or have kids? What happens when they want to get more active in their church? These are all things that could easily happen, and it’s going to be a nightmare when they find out that you’re not planning on converting.

You HAVE to be honest with yourself with these questions. When people that are not religious are dating people that are, they have a tendency to try and pretend everything is okay and that it’s not going to be an issue. Why? Well, it’s usually because they really like the person and that’s what makes all of this so hard.

But the bottom line is that if you really like the person that much, you should be willing to ask the tough questions about your potential future. If you’re thinking about starting a relationship and dating someone religious when you are not, we’d probably advise against it. We’ll talk in one of the next sections about some other options you have where you’ll have fewer issues and a better shot at happiness.

If you’re in a relationship now, you’re probably here because you already see issues. No one comes looking for articles like this unless they think something is wrong or might be going wrong. Answer these questions honestly, and you’ll have your answer about what you should do. If it’s not the answer, you were hoping for, be strong and do what is best for both of you.

 

Practical Steps You Can Take Now

So, when we write our online dating guides, we don’t want to just give you “information” without including advice on how you can use that information to make your life better. So, with that said, let’s take a look at what you can do today if you’re currently dating someone religious when you are not.

1. Make a decision about what you want to do.

You have to decide which way you want to go. The worst thing you can do is make no decision and be half in and half out of the relationship. If you feel that their faith is going to create too many issues in the future, you need to decide to walk away and find someone new. We’ll cover this in step three below. If you feel that their faith is something that you both can work around, then skip down to step two.

The bottom line takeaway here is that you have to make a decision and you need to make it now. Things are not going to just magically fix themselves or get easier. We will tell you that if you’re here looking up guides like this, you’re probably already seeing issues and need to walk away. This is certainly the tougher of the two decisions, but if you love each other or care about each other, then you need to do what is best for the both of you.

2. If You decide you want to try and make it work, you need to have a serious conversation.

While we really don’t advise it, some of you have decided to try and make it work, and that’s okay. It’s your relationship and not ours, so you get to make the decisions. But, if you are planning on going down that road, we do have some advice for you. You NEED to have a sit-down and serious conversation about all of this.

No, we’re not talking about a casual conversation where you dance around the issues. You need to address everything, and it needs to all be settled once and for all within that conversation. You need to look at any current issues that you’re having as well as any issues that you foresee in the future. Allow your religious mate to air out any concerns they have as well.

Are there things you do that they don’t like? Are they going to be able to accept those things or are you willing to stop doing them? Are there things that they do that bother you that you’re not okay with? If you’re in a serious relationship, how are things going to look if you get married? How will you raise your kids – in the church or not?

Some of these issues might seem a little overboard and way down the road, but you have to address them now. If you think they’re just going to fix themselves or that you can deal with them later, you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Dating someone religious when you are not isn’t easy, and if you’ve decided to try and make it work, it’s actually going to take some proactive work on your and your partner’s behalf.

Schedule a “meeting” with your partner and let them know you want to talk about something important to the relationship. They’ll respect you for hitting this head on and taking their faith and religion seriously.

3. If you decide you want to walk away, that’s okay.

If you came here looking for us to tell you what to do or what we suggest, this is what we recommend. The fact that there is enough of a problem that you needed to hit the Googles to look it up tells a lot. Even if things “aren’t that bad,” the fact that you potentially see an issue is enough that should tell you that you’re in a tough situation.

While this may be the toughest of the options, it’s going to be for the best, and you need to remember that. Sometimes doing the right thing is not easy and this is certainly one of those examples. Taking care of this now and not waiting until months or years down the road is going to make it easier. Not much easier, but still easier. It’s unfair to both of you to stay in a relationship that you know is not going to work because you disagree on something too fundamental and foundational to a relationship.

4. If you decide to walk away, start looking for new singles in places where you can find non-religious singles.

If you do decide to walk away, it’s going to hurt, but it’s not the end of the road. There are tons of singles out there who share the same views on religion as you. One of the best ways to find non-religious singles is using online dating. Why? Well, it prevents you from having to ask them where they stand on religion because they have to put that information into their profile.

So, before you even choose to start talking to someone, you’re going to know whether they are religious or not. This will prevent you from getting into the same predicament you find yourself in now.

Now, we’re not saying that you have to go out and find someone new right away. But, if and when you’re ready, we do have some recommended online dating sites that can help you find that new special someone who shares the same views as you.

Catholic Singles Online Dating Guide

Cross, rosary, and rings

Catholic Single PrayingBeing a Catholic single looking for love in today’s world can be a challenge. It’s hard enough to find someone that you mesh with well, are attracted to, and excites you without taking your faith into account. The problem is that a lot of these people that seem like great matches end up not working out because they don’t share your Catholic belief system or they don’t view their faith with the same level of importance as you.

We’re guessing by the fact that you’re here with us that we don’t have to tell you that. You’re well aware that things can be frustrating and that’s why you’re here. The good news is that over the past few years several awesome Catholic online dating sites have emerged to help make things easier. These sites help you to sort through the dating options in your area to find people that excite you, are attractive to you and most importantly match up with you on where they stand with their faith.

To help you navigate this landscape, we’ve put together this guide to help walk you through dating as a Catholic single and the important things you should know to help you succeed. Our goal is to help you see what options are available to you and what you can personally do to increase your chances of finding that special someone fast.

We’re going to help you to pick the best site for you, and then we’re going to walk you through what you need to do once you get to the sites to ensure success. If you’re ready to get started, let’s dive into it!

 

Catholic Singles

 

Choosing the Right Site

If you’re ready to get started and aren’t here for the tips and the help, we totally get it. To help you out, we’ve put together the top Catholic online dating sites that you’ll have the best experience at. We’ve reviewed these sites heavily and can confirm they are the best options available. It’s also important to note that we never allow sites to pay us for a better recommendation or better review. These sites are truly the best options available and offer the most for Catholic singles in today’s dating world.

Mainstream vs. Dedicated

As you can see, we’ve only recommended Catholic-dedicated online dating sites. A big question that singles have is whether or not they should choose a mainstream/secular dating site or one that caters specifically to their religious preference. The answer to this has to do with how important your faith is to you.

If you’re someone whose faith is not that important to you or is an afterthought a lot, then we recommend checking out a mainstream dating site. You’re going to have a much better time dating with people on mainstream sites who identify themselves as Catholic. If you’re someone whose faith is important to them, then you’re definitely going to want to choose a dedicated site.

This does not mean you have to be someone who has all the answers and is “so Catholic” that you make the Pope look bad. No one is perfect, and there are plenty of people on these sites who are still figuring things out. As long as your faith is something that is important to you (regardless of where you are in your walk), then you’re going to have a much better dating experience with one of these sites.

More Than One Site?

Another question Catholic singles ask a lot is whether or not they should join one site or join multiple ones. The answer to this from our experience is that you should check out a couple of sites but ultimately only join one. The sites we’ve recommended give you free trials where you can check out the matches and how the site is set up. This costs you nothing except for a few minutes of your time. What we recommend is taking advantage of these free trials and finding the site that looks best to you and then joining that one.

The reason we don’t recommend joining multiple dating sites at once is that you may end up getting overloaded with matches. This might sound like something awesome, but you can end up not dedicating enough time or effort to your matches that deserve it. Remember, you’re not here looking for hundreds of dates if you don’t have to. You’re looking for someone special to hopefully fall in love with and get married to. That only takes one person to fulfill that role.

If you’re ready to use a free trial, click the links at the top of this page and you’ll see a button to receive your free trial automatically. These trials are great because they allow you to see what each dating site has to offer without having to join as a member right away.

 

Know Where You Stand on the Issues

When you choose to put your faith at the foreground of your dating, it’s important that you know where you stand on some of the bigger issues. Within Catholicism, there are a lot of different teachings that people will differ on what they think is correct. These issues might be small, and might be something that won’t affect a relationship much at all. Some of these issues, though, are integral to your faith and should be treated as deal breakers.

If you’re a Catholic single, you need to take some time to figure out where you stand on these issues. If you’re wishy-washy on your views, it’s going to make dating difficult. You might find someone who you like, but they don’t view their faith exactly the same way you do. This can lead to heartache and issues further down the road as you get to know each other more.

The best advice we can give you is to take the online dating process seriously and spend some time self-reflecting before you get started. Look at the issues that are important to you and your faith and decide where you stand on them. Figure out which of these issues would be a deal breaker and which you would be willing work with.

Not sure where to start? Take a look at the next section we have on understanding the faith-based questions. A good Catholic dating site is going to bring these issues to the foreground and help to match you with other singles who share the same views as you.

 

Understanding the Faith-Based Questions

When you join a Catholic online dating site, you’re going to be answering a lot of questions about you, your life, and most importantly your religious faith. Sometimes these questions aren’t going to be ones that you can answer in a matter of seconds. To help you out, we’ve pulled some of the most popular faith-based questions you’ll run into as a Catholic single dating online.

Catholic Singles Question 1

A question that we see on some sites is whether or not you are free to marry within the Catholic Church. This question isn’t asked everywhere, but we have certainly seen it more than once.

Cathlic Singles Question 2

Some Catholic dating sites will ask singles what type of schooling they had growing up. While your schooling doesn’t define you, it may have a big impact on who you are or how your faith plays into your life. It also may have an effect on how you might want to raise your kids if you do choose to have any.

Catholic Singles Question 3

This is a fairly straightforward question that asks how often you attend Mass. We highly recommend that you answer this question (and all of them) honestly. No one is going to judge you if you don’t attend Mass as often as you’d like.

Cathlic Singles Question 4

This is a great question for singles that we see on a few dating sites. It helps potential matches to see some more about your history and what has helped to shape you into the person you are today.

Catholic Singles Question 5

This is a preference question that if fairly popular on Catholic dating sites. You can obviously understand why this might be an important question when trying to find potential dates and matches.

Catholic Singles Question 6

This question is one of the most important and should play a big role in helping you have success. You’ll want to be honest and let people know how important your faith is in your life.

Catholic Singles Question 7

The Catholic Church sometimes differs on it’s teaching on the Eucharist. This will be something that you may need to spend some time figuring out where you stand. Here’s a great guide on the subject in case you need some more information to prepare for this question.

Catholic Singles Question 8

Again, this is a Catholic issue that you’ll need to decide for yourself where you stand. To help you out, here’s a great article about the topic of contraception.

Catholic Singles Question 9

Here is some information to help you prepare for the possibility of this question being asked by the dating site or being brought up by a potential match.

Catholic Singles Question 10

This is another issue that you’ll need to decide where you stand. While you won’t see this asked often at online dating sites, we have seen it before. Here’s some information on Papal Infallibility to help you out.

Catholic Singles Question 11

This is a question that has become much more pressing in today’s world. Out of all of the questions on this list, this is the one that as a Catholic single in today’s world you may run into the most.

Catholic Singles Question 12

Here’s some information on Immaculate Conception to help you out.

Catholic Singles Question 13

The last question we have for you today to look at is where you stand on the teaching of the Holy Orders. Here’s some information from the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops on Holy Orders.

While these are certainly not all the questions that might come up, these are the main ones that we’ve seen at several Catholic dating sites. Should you expect to see all of these questions? Certainly not. Some sites like to ask these to help with their matching algorithm and some sites like to leave it up to you to dig into if you want. You don’t have to wait until you have answers on all of these to get started. We just wanted to do our best to give you a head start and a heads up.

 

Getting Started the Right Way

At this point, you have all of the pieces that you need to have a successful online dating experience as a Catholic Single. Here’s our advice to put it all together. First, take your time. There is no rush to find the love of your life in the next five minutes. You can take your time and know that the person God made for you is out there and you will find them.

Make sure you take the time to know where you stand on the religious issues and don’t waiver on the ones that are deal breakers for you. Once you’re set on those, click on a few of the sites we recommended at the top of the page. Each has a full review of the site as well as a button for a completely free trial. Take advantage of this trial and find the site that is best for you.

When you find it, join the site and get to searching! If you’re brand new to online dating, we do recommend taking a minute and reading our beginner’s guide to online dating.

We wish you luck and know with this information you’ll be able to find love!